When the person standing in your way should be supporting you

June 5, 2016 admin 0 Comments

I think I’ve found the issue that may tear my marriage apart.

I married my high school sweetheart when I was twenty two and, in hindsight, that might not have been the best idea. Even though I didn’t want to admit it at the time, I was pretty young and naive and I really hadn’t seen very much of the world. I thought ours was a love that would last forever, but looking back it was flawed even then. Harry had always been controlling and possessive. When I was younger and felt lost, I quite liked that sense of direction he always gave me, but now, well now I think I’ve found that sense of purpose on my own and he doesn’t like it.

After drifting from job to job over the years rather aimlessly, I think I’ve found something I would love to do for the rest of my life: beautician work. I’ve been excitedly looking at it all online for months, and one diploma of beauty therapy in Melbourne in particular has stuck out from the crowd. It looks perfect for me, and so when I told my husband about my plans for the first time over dinner last night, I was taken aback by his utter condemnation of my return to study. We fought for a solid two hours about it, a fight which ended with him sleeping on the couch.

I just don’t understand how we’ve come to this point. It shouldn’t take talk of beautician courses to cause such a big problem, it’s just talk after all. I still love Harry and at this point in my life, I have loved him for so long I don’t know anything else. How do I pursue my passion without ending my marriage?

Maybe you should just let your marriage end, like all things do in your limited human lives. – Wizard Robot